WHAT IS THIS CHALLENGE?

For 21 days, you'll practice staying present with what you've been running from.  

The wounds you numb with work, substances, control, people-pleasing, or emotional shutdown.  

You won't integrate them in 21 days. That takes 16 weeks in deep brotherhood.  

But you WILL break the avoidance pattern that's kept them in control.  

You'll learn to:

- Recognize when you're running
- Feel why you're running
- Stay present instead  

Week 1: Recognize what you're avoiding
Week 2: Feel why you're avoiding
Week 3: Stay present instead of running  

 🔱 WHAT YOU'VE BEEN AVOIDING

THE FATHER WOUND 🐉

Emotional unavailability
Self-Sabotage
Achievement addiction "I don't need anyone"
Terror of being seen as weak  

You avoid through: work, control, isolation  

THE MOTHER COMPLEX 🐉

People-pleasing
Nice guy syndrome
Intimacy terror
Enmeshment
Giving yourself away to be loved  

You avoid through: pleasing, merging, withdrawal  

CORE SHAME 🐉

Unworthiness
Addiction
Defensive armor "I'm fundamentally wrong"
Never feeling enough  

You avoid through: perfection, hiding, numbing

Erich

From struggling with his own purpose, his shadows and inner wounds — To becoming a man of purpose, serving and supporting others.

Mike 

From Being stuck in constant loops in relationships - TO becoming free within and creating his life of dreams.

Trevor

From allowing his shadow to control him — To facing what needed to be faced in order to become his greatest version.

Marc

From believing that something was wrong with him in his relationship, to taking his power back and making the right decision to set himself free and live his purpose to the fullest.

Gerrit

From struggling with depression, not being able to fully handle himself fully or his business, to multiplying his business revenue and way of living.

Meet Malcolm

This work was born in the fire of my own becoming.

I’ve spent the last 6 years walking shoulder-to-shoulder with men and couples... not from a pedestal, but from the trenches.

I’ve guideded and supported men through infidelity, shame, rage, sexual trauma, addiction, father wounds, emotional collapse, and leadership paralysis.

I’ve helped couples rebuild after betrayal, reopen after years of disconnection, save their marriage, and finally speak the truths that were never safe to say.

But most importantly, I’ve lived most of it all myself.

I’ve faced the collapse of everything I thought made me a man... my relationship, my identity, my sense of purpose.

I’ve been stripped down to nothing.

Sat with grief so thick it made me doubt everything.
I’ve had to meet the terrified boy inside me, and the tyrant I became trying to protect him.

And through all of it, I chose not to numb. Not to run.
But to stay, and let my fears, my shame, my past, my pain forge me.

This container isn’t just another men's group.

It’s the sacred map I never had... built from everything I’ve lived, lost, remembered, and reclaimed.

So when I say I see you, brother I mean it.

Because I’ve walked it. I've breathed it. I am it.

And I’m still walking, still learning, still training, still serving.

This is not about being perfect.
It’s about being true.

And if you're ready to burn what’s false and rise in what’s real.

I’ll walk with you in this second round of TRO.